How I Come To Understand You
We don't have to scratch the surface for too long before encountering our deepest wounds. These core wounds often become the unconscious threads connecting our past to our present, influencing how we experience closeness, vulnerability, and connection.
Our body may try to communicate with us through the voice of addiction, anxiety, depression, overwhelm, or stuckness. These symptoms are merely messages informing us about how we are experiencing our environment and ourselves. Though your symptoms may seem uncomfortable, undesirable, and maladaptive, your body is adapting perfectly to the mental, physical, spiritual, and sociocultural conditions you have been subjected to during your life. Who you are is precisely the culmination of every experience, inclination, behavior, thought, and relationship you have ever had. If we were to look through every moment in your life, it would make perfect sense why you struggle with the things that currently, and perhaps have always, plagued you. How could it be any other way? Our longstanding challenges and chronic illnesses are how our body and mind have wisely adapted to help us survive.
Therapy is the sacred space where we realize our innermost desires and contend with our greatest fears, all in the company of someone trained in undoing the aloneness of our suffering. We begin by bringing clarity to where we feel stuck, helping us understand the true nature of our dis-ease or inner conflict. From there, we will gently begin to explore the patterns in your emotional responses and relationships, as well as, make meaning of behaviors that may feel automatic or hard to explain.
My intention for you is transformation that addresses the root cause, not temporary behavioral changes or an endless search for new coping skills. Rather a reworking our negative core beliefs about ourselves. And for that, there is no quick fix, anything less would dishonor the journey that has brought us to where we are today.
Our relationships in shaping our emotional experiences, identity, and current behavior. It is believed that much of human suffering arises from relational injuries and disconnection. In relational psychoanalysis, the therapeutic relationship, between you and I, becomes the central means of healing, as it provides a space where past relational patterns can emerge, be reenacted and you can experience a new, reparative kind of relationship that allows you to experience understanding, empathy, and growth.
Relational psychoanalysis is particularly effective for individuals who struggle with intimacy, trust, vulnerability, anxious or avoidant attachment, low self-worth, loneliness or the aftermath of relational trauma.
At times you may feel that your therapist is warmly holding you in the space you are right now, and during other times you may sense that your therapist is a beneficial adversary, who is on the side of who you could be. Therapy is a process of being and becoming.
Existential therapy can help you embrace freedom by taking personal responsibility, find meaning and purpose in your life, and live in a way that is authentic and aligned with your values and aspirations. This nurtures our inherent resilience in the face of life’s inevitable tragedies.
Existential therapy is a philosophical approach to psychotherapy that emphasizes exploring your convictions and questions about the human condition.
“There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul.”
— ARNOLD BENNETT
